一輩子的時間都是自己的 Own your lifetime

打從出生那刻起到死亡，沒人可幫自己過任何一分一秒。

無論是生理上的疼痛或強健體魄，還是心靈上受創與豐盛輕盈，你人生各種內外在的起承轉合，全都是自己一人在經歷。別人完全無法插手承擔，即使只有一丁點也沒有餘地。

日常裡就可以觀察到，同一件事情發生，但每個人的反應(情緒/想法/行為...)都有所不同，各自都在過自己的人生啊!

所以不要輕易讓別人插手你的生命，自己也不要亂插手他人的生命。因為你負責不了別人的生命，你頂多只能負責自己的生命。能好好為自己生命負責，就也很了不起了!! 真的!!(亂插要打手手喔😆)


把自己過好，爽到自己。

過不好，痛苦也在自己。

連自己都無法取悅了，是還想取悅誰？你無法給出自己沒有的東西。

給人家錢，也要自己有錢。愛，也是一樣。給他人愛，先愛自己吧！這不是自私，是腦袋清楚。

過好，自己是最大受益者。

過不好，最大的受害者，不是別人，正是自己。

活著到死亡的這段時間，要怎麼過，我是主人。

有了這份瞭解，我想就已將人生發球權十之八九已拿在自己手上了❤️

當下若一直過不好，怎麼可能人生會過好？因為人生就是每一刻當下所組成的呀。

但想要把「每個當下」都過好也太難了！所以我覺得可以用「一個小時段」來看，例如一星期、一個月，至多至多就一年。我就把這一星期過好就好。這樣比起想要過好每一刻當下，是不是就簡單多了😆


目標在未來，像北極星指引方向。

生活在當下，生命滋味就在醞釀。

有目標跟活在當下，兩者不衝突，可共存😊

✨ 一起來來想想

1. 我是不是在期待別人替我扛起，只有我自己才能負責的事？

2. 如果我真的把人生主控權拿回來，會有什麼改變？

3. 我能不能只專心把這一週過好，而不是一直追求每一刻都要完美？
   

（原文寫在 2022.5.13 我個人臉書 Betty Yuchan Tseng 上，經修改後重發在網站上）

Your Lifetime Belongs to You—Start Living Like It

From the moment you're born until the moment you die, no one else can live a single second of your life for you.

Whether it's physical pain or strength, emotional wounds or inner lightness, every part of your journey—both inside and out—is yours alone to experience. No one else can carry it for you. Not even a tiny part of it.

You see this every day: the same thing can happen to different people, but everyone reacts differently—with their own emotions, thoughts, and actions. Each of us is living our own life.

So don’t let others step into your life so casually—and don’t go inserting yourself into theirs either. You can’t take responsibility for someone else’s life, just as they can’t take responsibility for yours. And truly, if you can take full responsibility for your own life, that’s already incredible. Really. (If you’re tempted to interfere, smack your own hand! 😆)

If you live well, you’re the one who benefits.


If you live poorly, you’re the one who suffers.

If you can’t even make yourself happy, how can you possibly expect to make someone else happy?

You can’t give what you don’t have.

Want to give someone money? You have to have it first.

Want to give someone love? Same rule applies. Love yourself first.

That’s not selfish—it’s clarity.

If you live well, you are the biggest winner.

If you live poorly, you are the one who pays the price.

The time between being alive and death—how you live it—that’s up to you. You’re in charge.

Once you truly understand that, you’ve already taken back most of your power in life. ❤️

And here’s the thing: if you’re constantly living each present moment poorly, how could your whole life feel good? Life is made up of the present. That’s all it is.

But trying to make every single moment perfect? That’s exhausting!

So instead, I like to zoom out a bit. Try living well for one week. One month. Maybe a year. That’s way easier than trying to perfect every second, right? 😆

Goals are for the future—they’re your North Star.

Living happens in the now—that’s where your life takes shape.

Having goals and being present don’t have to be at odds.

They can exist together. 😊

Reflection Questions

1. Am I hoping someone else will handle things only I can own?

2. What would shift if I fully owned my life and choices?

3. Can I just focus on living one good week instead of chasing perfect moments?

(Originally posted on my personal Facebook on May 13, 2022. Revised for the blog.)