不要在你的人生中缺席，請 Show Up 現身！Don’t Be Absent from Your Own Life—Show Up!

「你的人生是要跟誰請假？」


第一次聽到這句話時，我心頭一震，記憶至今！


我們對於自己想做的事，心裡總是想得到他人支持，尤其是家人或伴侶的支持。說是支持，但其實是希望得到「允許」，希望他們對我們說：「YES, just do it.」


不，不是這樣的。


不是要得到的允許，而是「告知」。


真要談允許，反而是要用在自己身上。


就是「我更打開自己的心，讓自己的心更強壯，好讓我可以『允許我愛的人他們現在就是無法支持我』」的這個狀態發生，我接受。


講更白的一點，我允許自己被所愛的人討厭、我允許自己被所愛的人不認同。


這樣是否有更清楚了呢？


而不是將「允許」的力量給別人，自己只無能為力等待別人允許自己做想做的事。


想出國、想離職，自己想清楚後就自己做決定，為自己的人生負責。


不把把力量花在跟父母或伴侶對抗，因為那不是你的目的啊！你的目的是去做你想做的事，不是「對抗父母或伴侶」啊。


把力量放在想做的事情上面。


你把自己活好，再去跟他們分享你快樂的樣子不是更好嗎？


結果可能會有兩種的可能，一是他們為你感到開心，另一個是他們會嫉妒你甚至說你自私。


若他們能為你感到開心，那就太好了。


但若是嫉妒你甚至說你自私，那就請把這嫉妒的功課、自私的功課讓對方拿回去做吧，這不是你的人生功課。

✨ 最後讓我們一起來想想

1. 我是不是一直在等別人點頭，才開始真正過自己的人生？

2. 如果就算別人不理解，我也願意給自己允許，生活會有什麼不同？

3. 在人生中的哪些地方，我需要更真誠地「為自己出現」？

照片 | 人在峇里島，前幾天與我姐去聖猴森林🐒 🌲💖

（原文寫在 2023.12.26 我個人臉書 Betty Yuchan Tseng 上，經修改後重發在網站上）

Don’t Be Absent from Your Own Life—Show Up!

"Who do you think you need permission from to live your life?"

The first time I heard this question, it hit me hard—and it’s stuck with me ever since.

When we want to do something important to us, we often hope for support—especially from people we love, like our family or partner. But if we're being honest, what we really want isn’t just support—it’s permission.

We want them to say, "Yes, go for it. Just do it."

But here’s the truth:

It's not about getting permission—it’s about giving notice.

And if we’re going to talk about permission, maybe it’s something we actually need to give ourselves.

What does that mean?

It means opening your heart, strengthening yourself from within, so that you can say:

"I allow myself to love people who, right now, can’t support me—and that’s okay."

Let me say it more directly:

I allow myself to be misunderstood by the people I love.

I allow myself to be disapproved of by the people I love.

That’s clarity.

Stop giving others the power to say what you can and can’t do. Don’t wait around for approval. It’s your life. You decide.

Want to move abroad? Quit your job? Once you’ve thought it through—go for it. Make the decision. Take responsibility for your life.

Don’t waste your energy fighting with your parents or your partner. That’s not your goal. Your goal is to live your life, not to win an argument.

Put your energy into what you actually want to do.

Live fully. Then show them your happiness. Wouldn’t that be better?

There are only two outcomes:

1. They feel happy for you.

2. They feel jealous and call you selfish.

If it’s the first—amazing.

If it’s the second? That’s their work to do. Jealousy, resentment, judgment—those aren’t your lessons to carry.

✨ Let's think about it 

1. Am I waiting for someone to approve my life before I start living it?

2. What would change if I gave myself permission—even if others don’t understand?

3. Where in my life do I need to show up more fully, for myself?

Photo: Taken in Bali after visiting the Sacred Monkey Forest with my sister. 🐒🌲💖
(Originally posted on my personal Facebook on Dec 26, 2023. Revised for the blog.)

我覺得很美的戶外表演場地。請現身 Show Up 並站在你的人生舞台上！



猴猴頭上的一撮毛，好可愛！



很美的一棵樹


我和我姐



偶遇慶典





聖猴森林裡的一個翠綠小徑