你是愛的國王？還是愛的乞丐？

奧修曾這樣形容過伴侶關係，大意就是：「來要的，是愛的乞丐。去給的，是愛的國王。」

喔喔喔，當時我一讀到這個，我就很喜歡！我要當愛的國王！

雖然有時能量低時我會是愛的乞丐我知道，但我慢慢再把自己養好，往國王的方向前進。不用逼自己馬上變「愛的國王」啦，能量不夠時，再怎麼逼也沒用。慢慢養好能量，自然就會變國王。

養能量是重點，變國王不是重點。

其實我後來延伸出的是：伴侶是我分享愛的「媒介」。

這也是為何有人很久沒有伴侶我也不覺得他很可憐或很怎麼樣，因為在他的生命中他分享愛的媒介可能是他的工作、他的小孩、他的夢想！不是一定要透過伴侶才能分享愛、感受到愛阿。媒介可以是很多種管道。

你覺得呢？❤️
 

最後，來想想吧！

1. 當我在一段關係裡時，我是帶著「給予」的心，還是「索取」的心？

2. 當我感覺能量低落時，我會怎麼補充自己、重新連結自己？

3. 除了親密關係，我生命中還有哪些管道，可以讓我表達與分享愛？

（原文寫在 2023.11.21 我個人臉書 Betty Yuchan Tseng 上，經修改後重發在網站上）
 

Are You a King of Love—Or a Beggar for It?

Osho once described romantic relationships like this:

"Those who come to take are beggars of love. Those who come to give are kings of love."

And the first time I read that, I loved it. I thought—yes! I want to be a king of love.

Sure, there are times when my energy is low and I fall into that beggar mindset—I want love, I need love, I feel empty without it. But when that happens, I don’t beat myself up. I just focus on slowly rebuilding my energy. Restoring myself.

I don’t force myself to instantly become a king. That doesn’t work anyway—not when you're running on empty.

The goal isn’t to become a king.

The goal is to nourish your energy—and the king will emerge on its own.

Over time, I also realized this:

A partner is simply one possible channel through which I express and share love.

That’s why when I see someone who’s been single for a long time, I don’t feel pity. I don’t assume they’re missing something.

Maybe their way of sharing love is through their work, their children, their dreams.

Love doesn’t have to flow only through a romantic partner. It can move through many different doors.
What about you? ❤️

 

Reflection Questions

1. When I’m in love, do I usually come from a place of giving—or of needing?

2. How do I recharge and reconnect with myself when I feel like I’m running low?

3. What channels in my life (besides romantic love) allow me to express and share love?

(Originally posted on my personal Facebook on Nov 21, 2023. Revised for the blog.)