覺得自己很沒用？換個角度看，你可能會愛上它！

你是那種覺得自己沒用，就認為自己沒價值的人嗎？😔

跟你說喔，我其實還挺喜歡我自己的沒用／不好用，因為當別人覺得我沒用／不好用，是有我喜歡的好處耶！！！🤣🤣🤣

在上思考課時，當遇到一個自己不喜歡的狀態時，老師會請我們去列出關於這狀態的「3個好處」，尤其是那些我們理所當然覺得負面的狀態。

我超喜歡這種反轉！而這樣的練習，也協助我更中性去看待我原以為的負面狀態。

就拿有沒有用這個來舉例好了！

請列出3個自己沒用，有什麼好處？

1.別人不會一直叫我做事

2.別人對我期待降低，我壓力變小，人更快樂

3.別人不會一直關注我，我可以更自在過自己喜歡的生活

是不是超讚？是！！！！（自己喊 哈哈哈）我確實是喜歡這3個好處。


｜溫柔版｜

別總是用［有沒有用，好不好用］，這麼單一的角度來看「自己存在的價值」好嗎？ 要記得，你是人，不是物品❤️（和藹可親的微笑）


｜恰北北版｜

別總是用［有沒有用，好不好用］，這麼單一的角度來看「自己存在的價值」，你是物品膩！！！！！😑（摔筆）


這兩個版本我都喜歡不想刪任何其中一個，我就貪心！


拉回來。所以，當遇到自己不喜歡的狀態時，歡迎試著列出3個這狀態的好處喔！


 

最後來個思考時間

1. 有沒有什麼我一直不太喜歡的自己，其實可能也藏著一些意想不到的好處？

2. 我是否太過把「對別人有沒有用」當成衡量自己價值的標準？

3. 如果我把自己當成一個人，而不是一個工具，會有什麼不同？

（原文寫在 2022.8.28 我個人臉書 Betty Yuchan Tseng 上，經修改後重發在網站上）



 

Feel Useless? Try This Perspective—You Might Start Loving It!

Ever feel like you’re useless—and then assume that means you’re worthless too? 😔

Let me tell you something: I actually kind of like the fact that I’m not always super useful or efficient. Because when others see me as "not that useful," it actually comes with some great perks! 🤣🤣🤣

Back in a thinking class I took, our teacher would ask us to do this exercise:
 

Whenever you’re facing a situation or trait you don’t like, especially one you see as negative, try listing 3 benefits of it.

I love this kind of mindset flip. It helps me look at things I used to label as “bad” in a much more neutral, open way.

Take the idea of being "useless," for example.

Try asking yourself: What are 3 benefits of being useless?

Here are mine:

1. People stop asking me to do stuff all the time.

2. Expectations go down, so pressure goes down—and I’m way happier.

3. No one’s watching me closely, so I get to live life on my own terms.

Pretty awesome, right? YES. (Shouting to myself here hahaha.) I genuinely like all three.

Gentle version:
Stop defining your worth through how useful or efficient you are. You’re a human being, not a product. ❤️ (smiles warmly)

Sassier version:
Quit measuring your value by how useful you are—what are you, a household appliance?! 😑 (slams pen down)

Honestly, I love both versions and refuse to delete either. Let me be greedy!

So next time you find yourself stuck in a state you don’t like, try this:

List 3 hidden benefits of that state. You might be surprised what you find.

 

Reflection Questions

1. What’s something I usually dislike about myself—but could maybe have hidden upsides?

2. Am I basing my self-worth too much on how “useful” I am to others?

3. What would change if I saw myself as a person, not a product?

(Originally posted on my personal Facebook on August 28, 2022. Revised for the blog.)